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Rihanna says she left Chris Brown to set an example for other domestic violence victims

Getprev-20 Music star Rihanna said she decided she had to end her relationship with former boyfriend Chris Brown after realizing the message she sent to her fans by going back to him after he assaulted her.

“When I realized that my selfish decision for love could result into some young girl getting killed, I could not be easy with that part,” she told ABC’s Diane Sawyer on “Good Morning America” this morning in the first part of an exclusive interview. “I couldn’t be held responsible for telling them, ‘Go back.’ Even if Chris never hit me again, who’s to say that their boyfriend won’t? Who’s to say they won’t kill these girls?”

In August, R&B singer Brown, 20, was sentenced to five years' probation and community service for beating Rihanna, 21, on the eve of the Grammy Awards in February.

Speaking deliberately but with emotion, Rihanna told Sawyer that she was ashamed that she went back to Brown after he hurt her. “I fell in love with that person; that’s embarrassing,” she said. “So far in love, so unconditional that I went back.”

“That’s not what I want to teach people,” she added. “But I’m a human being, and people put me on a very unrealistic pedestal. All these expectations – I’m not perfect.”

Rihanna said she came to understand that her initial reaction was typical of many victims of domestic violence. But the glare of the media spotlight made it even more traumatic. “There are a lot of women who experienced what I did but not in the public, so it made it really difficult,” she said. “I felt like, ‘Oh my God, here goes my little bit of privacy, just [having] exposed something that nobody wants anybody to know. Here I am, the whole world knowing.’”

Meanwhile, Brown told MTV that he’s still trying understand his own behavior. “My thoughts [when I look back on it now] is like, 'Why did it happen?' " he said in an interview airing Friday. "Like, 'What was I thinking? What is wrong with you?' That's what I'm thinking with myself. That's what my thoughts are, basically, now.”

-- Matea Gold

Photo: Diane Sawyer and Rihanna. Credit: Ida Mae Astute / ABC

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I think she's full of bs aint no "Boy" gone hit no girl for no reason and not that bad she did somethin on the under and isnt tellini'm still a Chris Brown fan!!!!

Court records say she hit him in the face "numerous times" before he assaulted her. http: //news.ninemsn.com.au/entertainment/768865/rihanna-hit-chris-brown-first

No, that doesn't justify his much worse violence, but it shouldn't be ignored either. But it's hypocritical of the media and anyone else, including Rihanna, to refuse to address the whole truth about DV and to only focus on male DV, leaving female DV covered up. If Rihanna doesn't woman up and take responsibility for her own reported violence then her message will be nothing more than the usual one-sided hypocrisy and double standards. "There is no excuse for domestic violence" applies to both men and women. Even minor domestic violence often leads to an escalation.

A 32-nation study by the University of New Hampshire found women are as violent and controlling as men in relationships worldwide. http: //www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2006/may/em_060519male.cfm?type=n

A major study funded by the Centers for Disease Control found confirmed the same thing. http ://pn.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/42/15/31-a

In fact over 200 studies prove this. http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm


Men have responsibility. Women have excuses.

Rihanna is on a mission to promote her new album and will use Chris Brown to do it. Rihanna, your act does not fool everyone. Yes he hit you, but you hit him first.

Rihanna has so much courage, honesty, and strength. Everything she said is true and I appreciate it so much.

Women die every day in this country from domestic violence and it's time for our culture to wake up and face it for what it is - not love... just violence.

I'm particularly grossed out by the misogynistic women who blame her. Do you bleed? seriously.

The overwhelming incidences are women dying, women in hospitals, women in shelters... shut your pie hole and start a shelter for men in you're so concerned. Help someone, learn something, give back to stop the violence - don't just muss your mouth cause you have nothing to say.

You must move on with life. I enjoy your music forget about the past u a the best forever. Move on

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