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Whittier dating guru linked to Pittsburgh fitness club shooter

There is a Whittier connection to the case of George Sodini, the man who opened fire at a fitness club near Pittsburgh this week. According to the Whittier Daily News, Sodini can be seen in home videos watching the seminars of R. Don Steele, a Whittier dating guru. The Associated Press says Sodini was a fan and follower of Steele's books. According to the Daily News:

In a chilling diary posted on the Internet, he complained that he hadn't had a girlfriend since 1984 and hadn't slept with a woman in 19 years. But before he gave up any hope of finding anyone, he turned to Steele, a 69-year-old dating guru from Whittier.

Steele, according to his online biography, grew up in rural Pennsylvania, obtained a master's degree in psychology, and became a marriage and family counselor in 1976. He began writing books in 1984 and conducts "The Right Attitude Workshop" for men three times a year. He is the owner of Steel Balls Press and is married to a woman 34 years his junior.

In 2006, he told a Canadian newspaper that "women need men to take charge" and that women over 30 are "bitter."

Steele, whose real name is John J. White, did not respond to several e-mail requests for comment

-- Shelby Grad

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I wonder if Steele was the inspiration for Tom Cruise's character in Magnolia?

This DAting Guru is interesting. How competent is he. Could he not reach George Sodini. It is simple, accect a woman of his stature. He cannot get top flight ladies. Perhaps, a lower rank woman but everybody has their charmed, level. It is unacceptable what he did.

The only truth in this article is what Mr.Steele said in the Canadian newspaper.

I am unfamiliar with Steele's work, but I don't think any dating advice or pick-up-artist stuff works for EVERYONE. If Sodini really did these horrible crimes and wrote the things attributed to him, then perhaps women could see his literally fatal flaws and stayed away. This is despite the fact that even convicted first degree murderers and child rapists get women throwing themselves at them.

Guys like R. Don Steele are the reason guys like George Sodini exist. Men are constantly fed this b.s. (by other men) about how women love a macho, take-charge guy and how real men are sex machines who couldn't care less about messy, irrational feelings of love or attachment. In reading George Sodini's blog and watching his videos, it is clear that he longed for a deep, intimate attachment to a woman. He pined for someone to care about him, and to love. If men expressed this more feeling side to themselves, women would be far more responsive and would care for them more deeply. The reason R. Don Steele perceives women over 30 as "bitter" is because they know his type and can see him coming a mile away because they've been exposed to these insincere, macho, clueless guys for so long. When those same women come across a more adult, honest, open guy, that bitter energy is nowhere to be found. How were any of the women George Sodini came across supposed to know of his feelings and longings if all they ever saw was macho gym guy too tough to show his feelings?. We aren't mind-readers. R. Don Steele is a dinosaur teaching cavemen in the 21st century. Wake up already, guys. We bitter 30-something women are still waiting for you to come around and stop listening to these money-grubbing sex/relationship "gurus." They're the only ones profiting when you listen to them, and George Sodini serves as proof.


Oh come on! This is a flimsy tie at best, and watching the dating guru is NOT going to give one encouragement for shooting things up.
This isn't news...it's sensationalism.

This is not news. This is a tenuous, at best, connection to someone from decades ago. There was no reason to bring in an innocent person with probably no insight into the perpetrator's personality or psychoses.

My God, it's the Tom Cruise character in "Magnolia".

This guy Steele was a therapist before becoming a datin guru? What the heck kind of credentials do you have where you don't recognize that some of your clients might need therapy not self help?

I found your article quite useful and interesting. I have bookmarked the site for later usage. Peter


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