Ella Suggs, 53

Ella Suggs, 53, a black woman, was stabbed at a bus stop at 200 East Compton Blvd. and died at 3:07 p.m. Sunday,  April 29. Police said a man walked up to her and stabbed her without provocation as she waited for the bus. She was taken to a nearby hospital, where she died. A 31-year-old black man was arrested later the same day at the scene. His motive is still under investigation, police said.

.

Comments

[LaQuita]

Well you would think that life would be easier by now. Actually it is so different. I currently think about the course of my life and man, I'm such a different person today. I miss my mother like never before. Yesterday i had a dream (probably because the trial is near) and I heard a voice within my dreams that said "focus on the peace that she has right now." I had this strong sense of peace and was overjoyed internally, but i still miss talking to her, laughing and yes, her getting on my nerves. you never think about missing someone getting on your nerves, this is just another account of how every moment and experience with loved ones should be treasured. I think in January these post my be deleted or lost, so I printed out every page from this site and Compton news. We continue to go to the cemetry every week and each week seems like months since we where out. Time has a way of mending things but not deleting them. ILOVE MY MOM FOREVER AND PRAY THAT THE MONSTER RESPONSIBLE CHARLES LEON ELMORE WILL GET LIFE WITHOUT THE POSSIBILITY OF DEATH!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[LaQuita Suggs]

Wow, I guess my previous statement was a Freduian slip. I stated without the possiblity of death, but I actually met parole. However, I think that justice wuld be for him to die or spend his worhtless life in prision wondering when his last day will be. The trial will be starting in January and I look forward to putting this behind. I realize that I will be forever wounded and impacted by this senseless action. However not having to go to court and see that maggot is also going to be rewarding for me. My kids continue to struggle and yes, we all still cry at the Cemetry and then if we see someone who walks like her we look back to make sure it's not her. Although we know she is not here there is still this far fetched notion that perhaps that wasn't her that we buried. I elicit the prayers of concerned citizens during this trial and I look forward to talking about how this has impacted our family.

[Miriam Bailey]

LaQuita,

I just found this blog seemingly by accident, but I know it was meant for me to find it. You know that I am so sorry for your loss. I am especially, extremely sorry that we have not been in contact for a few months and I have not been there to support you through this horrific situation. Please know that you are in my thoughts always and I love you like a sister. I've read all your posts here and will look for the others that have been mentioned. I know how close you were to your mom and I cannot began to imagine the impact of her loss on you life or the kids. We all grieve in our own time and way and no one can tell you how to do that. Neither can anyone tell you how you're suppose to feel or what you're suppose to think about the person who did this awful, senseless, brutual act. I will contine to think about you and know that I AM HERE.

[LaQuita Suggs]

I don't know if the wonderful comments by people will disappear after the new year, but I want to take an opportunity to say that I am grateful for the support that was extended to me and my family during this time. I realize that I will always be impacted by this awful event and search diligently for reprieve. The trial is impending and it seems that the criminal is becoming unglued. His family is attempting to pay for an attorney because they were told that the case is very strong against him. I wonder if I would protect a family member even if I knew that they commited a crime such as this. Anyway, I heard a song and the words ring strongly in my heart "NEVER, WOULD HAVE MADE IT, WITHOUT YOU, I WOULD HAVE LOST IT ALL... I thank GOD so much for helping my through this process. Will it ever bbe over,? Yes, the trial but not the void.

[blu]

I hope you continue to update us here. I have kept you in my prayers. I have asked for you to be strong and for the courage to see this moment through to the end. God Bless you and your moments.

[LaQuita Suggs]

It seems that I may have a few more months to post my comments. The trial date is set back again, but will hopefully start in February. I was reading this stdy titled Yale study confirms validtiy of long held 5 stages of grieving and one thing that was said is that sadness is confused with yearning. That's so true because I so desperately desire to see, talk, laugh, argue and all those things with my mom again. I go to sleep hoping that I can see her face. I think that this expereinced has changed me forever, I desire to help people through their hurt and pain. No one knows what it's like to lose a mother in that manner unless it has happened to you. However, I am grateful for people who can empath with my struggle. My kids are real troopers because this is equally devastating to them, but they hold me together. I love them so much in general but for that they get kudos.

[cheryl]

gosh it is so sad to lose some one so precious to you i come here every now and then because i too am scared to read all of this hurt my 18yr old son was killed 10-2-06 3 days before his 19th birthday i know the pain allthough i have my mom with me and she is 85 i still cant imagine life without her i go to her a many days and hug her and cry and ask her why my boy momma so you hang in there and pray for you and your kids i have 6 other kids and man it tears a family up inside when you lose someone so close peace to you and yours god bless my sons killers where caught right after they murdered him and they are in the los angeles county jail waiting for trial

[daledo]

LaQuita and the Suggs Family,

I have never met you or your family but my heart grieves for you and I pray that you will be lifted in your times of need. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and grief with the readers on this blog. I have been riveted by your posts and by the horrible senseless nature of this incident.

In the scope of this tragedy, I realize what I am about to say is a very small thing, but I want you to know after reading your posts I have re-dedicated myself to being closer to my own mother who lives back east. Seeing how quickly somebody who was loved by so many can be taken away has been valuable for me. I guess I had been taking her for granted. I understand tomorrow isn't promised to anybody but we all think it'll be 'somebody else' or somebody else's family.

I have called her immeduiately after reading many of your posts and told her how much I love her and how much she means to me, no matter what we have been through. I had put off having these conversations because i assumed there woud always be time later on. I was wrong.

I am so very sad for you, but know that your love for her has blossomed in part through this blog and in my family has led to positive things. I am probably not alone.

If possible, please keep us up to date on the trial and I hope you realize how many people are thinking of you. Be strong and may justice be served.

[LaQuita Suggs]

My the latest post by daledo made me run to the bathroom in efforts to cover my tears. I have deeply touched to know that people have been able to do what I couldn't do. It's important to tell a love one daily that you love and care for them. Believe it or not this week seem much more difficult for me, I can't really explain why, I've just missed silly little stuff like saying "you know you should nt' eat that whole bag of cookies" Cherish every moment that you have with people you love. The trial will begin on Feb 12 as the animal keeps making these stupid allegations to delay the trial, hopefully this was his last attempt. He knows that he is guility because he asked the Judged if he is convicted can he be re-tried. It is satisfying in a sense to see him mentally anguished, but this does not compare to the tremenduous impact this ordeal has had on my family. He removed a generation from our family.....a legacy!!!!

[G. Austin]

Tippy,
I thought I had gotten thur the greiving process for my friend Ella. Sunday nite was an eye opener. I have not. UNCF honored SMOKEY- Ella's favorite entertainer. When they played "I second that emotion" I lost it. My friend was not a dancer, but I can still hear her say "watch me cut a step "when that song would play.
When they send the moster that took her life away, I hope it is in a place so far away from the one's he love and love him that it will seem as though he as passed on as well. He should not be give the chance to have visitors so that he can feel the hole he has left in the hearts of people that loved Ella, my oldest and dearest friend.
My prayer is that our hearts will heal and the light of Ella's smile will shine thur with gladness. Just as she would want it.
Love ,
Gail

[laQuita]

You know the saying, time heals all wounds. I believe this is incorrect, times does bring relief,but there are somethings that are just difficult to recover from. It's been almost a year and I still go to the grave site weekly and more importantly I have a yearning to see her. The trial still haven't started and you would be amazed at what freedom and liberty monsters are afforded. I will not be able to move past this until that maggot rots in prison or is put to death.

[LaQuita]

A long time coming, but I know change is going to come. Someone told me last night to take my tradegy and turn it into something amazing, and I thought that sounds really great, but how is that done. I still can't believe that death hit my family in such in this manner. I do know that times helps to remove that lump from your chest that surfaced when I was told about the murder, however i haven't found that it heals wounds. I believe that one day I will not dwell on the tradegy as much but healing was only come through my own death. No, not suicidal but iIhave client's who tell me that 14, or 9 years after the death of their mother, they are still grieving. Just keep us in your prayer.

[Blu]

Dear La Quita,

are you still visiting this site? If you are can you update me on how you are doing? It has been a while since your last post. I know in one post you wrote that the trial was going to be starting. How did things go in court?

thanks for the update.

[LaQuita Suggs]

I have actually submitted blogs to this site that have not posted for whatever reason. Blu thank you so much for your expression of concern. I have been trying to write out my experience and hope to one day publish it. The trial still has not stared, it seems to be one pitfall after another. The guy is trying to plead not guilty by reason of insanity, what a joke. He gets to delay the process while my family still reaches for closure. Talk about terror within. I am so ready to have this over with. I hope that you were able to reconnect with your mother. Since I am a therapist, I have actually been providing services to victims of crime and this brings me much solace. Anyone interested in emailing me to express your thoughts to help me through my process can do so at lsuggslcsw@hotmail.com

[LaQuita]

Time seems to amze me becaue it has a way of moving you forward and taking you back. I was sad suddenly today to the point of tears, because I'm still looking for a logical reason for this and I know it doesn't exist. I miss my mom so bad that I pray at night hoping to see a glimpse of her. This is something that I would never wish for anyone to lose someone in this manner is soemthing that you may never recover from. One thing I am grateful for is the support from my family and the DA that is handling this case.

[CONCERNYNGMOM]

sorry for ur loss

[LaQuita Suggs]

It's been a while since I have posted a blog... I can't believe that 21 months later, I am still waiting for the trial to begin. I never thought that living could cause so much pain, I still wonder at times if this could still be a nightmare. Life just seem unfulfilled and I think I am just waiting to die. Have you ever wondered how much pain a human heart can take. I do all the time, because this feels like the most God forbidden thing. Someone sent me an email(thanks Mark Ward) and it just made so much since about life, being in the truth and love. One thing that I will remember from the email is that he said "GRIEF IS LOVE UNWILLING TO PART." That is just so profound to me.

[Blu]

Dear La Quinta,

It was so nice to hear from you. I'm so sad and upset that it has taken this long to get the trial going. I hope and pray that you get an out come soon. Thank you for keeping me updated on this blog. I can't even begin to imagine your pain. I almost lost my mom this past year to illness and I was just beside myself. I have no idea how I would survive this kind of pain. But again thank you so very much for keeping me updated. The love you have for your mother comes through and touches me deeply. I'll keep you in my prayers and thoughts. God Bless

[Cameron]

i love u grandma

[Gabriela G. Leyva]

Ms. Suggs
When you quoted a friend who said that grief is love refusing to part I thought it WAS profound. But you know, as Christians, that love has not parted, just transformed. Of course, since we are spiritual beings having a human experience the physical loss is agonizing - we need and are so used to the senses telling us love exists and is real...but our faith is in that which is unseen. May you FEEL God's love with skin with every good thing in your life, every breath you take, every hug from someone that loves you (like your precious sons!). May you be embraced by God's love...though unseen may you continue to FEEL your mother and all her (now HEAVENLY) love. Someone else said she lives through you....in so many special ways. You are the reflection of the very best of her.

My 16 year old nephew was murdered in Summer 2007. The trial took a long time. It's a process (an arduous, rageful, tearful, growthful process). Have faith in the process (and yours) because though not perfect, justice WILL served. And the greatest justice of all is, in the end...Gods!

Gabriela G. Leyva

I am here for you.

[Yvette]

Tippy my heart has been so so heavy. But now knowing that the trial is about to start it's just like the day that it happen. But in the end justice will be served.

[Liz B.]

LaQuita-Please know that you and your family and your mom are in my heart and mind, and that there are more people out there in the world that love you than you could possibly imagine! We are all sending all of our love and hope and positive energy your way! I hope that the trial comes to a close soon, and delivers you a verdict that can offer you and your family a little bit of peace.

[dana]

Dear LaQuita,My prayers are with you and your loved ones,I don't know you personally but my cousin Courtney,which is a friend of yours was very upset and so was our family to hear of the tragic news.There's no words to describe what you must be going through I just pray that you get some measure of peace and closure in your life God Bless You Dana Bridges

[LaQuita Suggs]

Well all the posts are actually still there, but you have to go through a little process to bring them up...that's funny how every single thing in life has a process. On the 17th will be my mom's birthday and I find myself more grieved leading up to the event. I actually had one of the greatest DA's involved in the case and believe it or not she still calls me to see how I'm doing. I still feel very much confused (to say the least) but God has proven to be awesome to me...Thanks so much for your words of encouragment...I have started working with Victims of Crime in my office and I like never before understand the hole that is imprinted through your heart that never really heals. I remember when breathing was hard and now it's gotten somewhat better...

[Dwight A. Suggs]

for some time now i have been tring to find out if Ms. ella suggs is somehow related to my family. i am an employee of dept. of veterans affairs west la. my mom & dad is from florence ala. please contact me to let me and my family know as we grieve with you in this loss.