Knot your style: LAT Magazine assistant editor opens up wedding plans to blogosphere

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Anyone who has ever tied the knot will tell you that the minute that first question is answered in the affirmative, there’s a gajillion more right behind it. When? Where? How big is the ring? How did it happen? Is it gonna be open bar? Can I bring my second assistant’s life coach’s best friend’s adopted goth tween to the reception even though it says ‘no kids’ on the invite?

The worst part is, more often than not, the askers already have answers they’re more than eager to share, and the questions are usually little more than camouflage pretense for folks to metaphorically stick their fingers into your four-tier vegan wedding cake.

Which makes a sister blog that recently launched at the Los Angeles Times Magazine an exercise in courage (and crazy-making). Recently engaged assistant editor Allison Kornberg has decided to very overtly solicit advice from readers on every detail of her upcoming celebration in her new Plan My Wedding blog.

Usually I’m loathe to direct eyeballs and attention elsewhere, but now that the magazine is back in the editorial fold (for awhile it was under the control of the advertising department which meant we all treated each other like lepers), I think there’s some synergistic hay to be made between the Image section and the magazine.

But there’s another reason too. Journalistic integrity compels me to divulge that not only do Kornberg and I work in the same building, I knew her back at the beginning of her writing career at Fairchild Publications. (In fact, I may have given her her first assignment as a budding fashion journalist -- asking her to cover a birthday party Christian Audigier was throwing for himself.)

I told Kornberg (I’ve bellowed at her by her last name for so long I’d almost forgotten she had a first name) I thought the ‘nuptials by committee’ concept was a colossal mistake. Everyone’s got an opinion, I told her. You’re opening up your private life to the whole world, and they can’t wait to get all up in your grill.

When she said she was going to do it anyway, I cautioned that she better have thick skin, because the anonymity of the Internet means small, bitter people can (and will) post hurtful comments.

She assured me she did.

In that moment, I realized the gangly, shy Kornberg I’d met a handful of years ago was all grown up. What else is marriage but opening yourself up to opinion (and yes, criticism) from loved ones and strangers? So maybe she’s just using the blog to inoculate herself on the front end.

So check it out and by all means share your opinions on every last detail. So far the crowd has spoken and the best month to get married is apparently May. The current question up for debate is where, and it looks like the readers are leaning toward the beach (the other options are ‘city’ or ‘garden setting).

But one thing isn’t open for debate, at as far as I’m concerned. Even after she’s plighted her troth and become Mrs. Ryan Walch, I’ll still be bellowing ‘KORNBERG’ at her every time I see her in the hallway.

-- Adam TschornFollow All the Rage on Facebook and Twitter.

Photo: A photo of a mass wedding ceremony in Goyang, South Korea, on Feb. 17, involved about 14,000 people. The Los Angeles Times Magazine’s assistant editor, Allison Kornberg, has invited many times more people than that to get involved in every aspect of her wedding through a new blog called Plan My Wedding, Nuptials By Committee. Credit: Ahjn Young-joon / Associated Press