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Eunice Shriver and a daughter's public grief

Shriver photo “Grief cracks your heart into little pieces,” said Maria Shriver, speaking a little more than two months after the death of her mother, Eunice Kennedy Shriver.

California’s first lady stood before the annual Women’s Conference that she hosts in Long Beach and told attendees yesterday that “my mother’s death has brought me to my knees.”

The “extraordinary evocation of grief” brought “thousands to tears,” wrote The Times’ Cathleen Decker.

Shriver said her mother was “my hero, my role model, my very best friend. I spoke to her every single day of my life. I tried really hard when I grew up to make her proud of me.”

Just before her mother died, Maria Shriver said she asked her to “send me signs from time to time, so I know you are OK.”

The day after her mother’s funeral Shriver received one of those signs, she said, in the guise of a former nun who gave her prayer cards from Mother Teresa, a friend of Eunice Shriver’s. The former nun, fully clothed, then waded into the ocean, just as her mother often had.

-- Valerie J. Nelson

Photo: Eunice Shriver with her daughter Maria in 2005. Credit: Reuters

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Maria, I know what you are going through. I lost my Mom in Aug 2007. She came out to live with me. She had lived in San Antonio, Tx in the same house for 54 years. We lost Dad in 2002, Mom was 84 when she came out to live with me in Del Rio, Tx. My niece (Sherry) had been diagnosed with Scleroderma but could still get around then. Sherry and I took Mom over to Acuna Mexico, she had never been out of the US and thought that was so cool. We took her to eat at our favorite place called Manuels. She loved it. I had a little 20 room motel, probably wieh a 1 and 1/2 star rating, with a cafe, home made beer and wine bar on the Devils River, Mom was my greeter, I had her recliner in front of the door and large screen TV so she could watch her shows. Everyone loved Mom, My customers would really crack up at her and her wrestling. She could really get into it. Mom brought all of us together again for a couple of months, before she left us. I would not have traded that time of our lives for anything in this world. After Mom passed I was dead inside, completely numb. I have never experienced anything like this, before. One thing led to another at the motel and I gave up and put it up for sale and moved back to Kerrville with my daughters and grand daughter. If not for them I don't think I could have made it through. I still miss Mom so very much, things are still not right in my heart, we lost Sherry at the age of 45 Sept 08, and that was just as hard. Sherry and I grew up together then got married and life stuff and grew not so much apart just grew up i guess, when she started getting sick she would come and stay at the motel with me and we got just as close as when we were kids. Then Mom came to live with me and the 3 of us were tight. I can't say it gets any easier, because I haven't felt anything ease up yet. But keep your kids and husband close at hand, they will help alot. Every now and then go off and cry, let it out, Girl, don't hold it back, you can only do that for a short time. Your Mom raised a strong, loving Lady, who needs to cry sometimes, not over spilled milk, but because the wonderful Lady that raised and comforted and loved you has passed on. But just think Maria, she has seen the face of Jesus Christ and he has touched hers.

Good Luck Girl call me and we can cry together.
Judy Reininger
cell # 830-200-1840

Mrs. Shriver stood up for help for those who had no voice in our money driven world. Maria, why have you trashed her legacy by not speaking out on the extensive cuts in financial help for the women's shelters caused by your husbands ledislation? We don't care if you talk on a car phone or park badly. Remember your sisters out here in the real world who face the daily struggle to survive.

What I'd like to know is, who's going to comment on this, the true and honorable expression of a child's deep and obviously loving respect for her mother - something seen so rarely these days? Everyone has had volumes to spew over her use of the cell phone. Who's got something to say about this?

Give us a break. Maria your mum was in the end quite ordinary. If she hadn't been dining out on the Kennedy name all those years you might get more sympathy. Mum cared about others with the taxpayer dollar. No more. No less. She was a perfect Kennedy.

Maria: I hear exactly what you are saying. After my mom died, the grief and loss was at the tip of my brain every single moment for approximately 18 months to two years. The obsession seemed to get better after that. It has now been 25 years since my mom died but I still miss her very much. To spend an afternoon with her and just talk would make me so happy. I don't know what's wrong with "Boils" but your mom was and still is a superb role model for every woman (and man).

Boils: No other words come to mind except you are a low life. You don't get to choose your parents/family etc. Mrs. Shriver did good work and she didn't have too. What have you done lately Mr. Boils?????

Regardless of her accomplishments or lack thereof, Eunice Shriver was a mother who was obviously loved by her children. Maria Shriver's grief is real as it is for those of us in everyday life without welll-known parents. I do agree with Boils regarding the use of public funds for her mother's good works, but the sense of loss and lingering grief can bring one to their knees with a pain that dulls but never fully abates.

I wasn't going to comment initially, but seeing what others have said, I guess I will. To me Maria Shriver is as phony as a $3 bill. This seems to be another case of me, me, me. Instead of sharing her very justifiable grief with family and/or friends she seems to using it as plea for sympathy and as stunt at that recent women's conference in Long Beach. That picture in the Times was a little much. I only wish my mother had lived to the age her's did.

Most critics agree that her recent 'brilliant' report on the state of women in America didn't reveal anything any moderately intelligent person hasn't known for 20 years. If she wants to do something worthwhile maybe she could stop flouting the law and begin driving without using her cell phone and thus making the roads safe for other people's mothers. She still hasn't donated that phone to a poor person as she promised 10 days ago. Maybe it might be easier to do, if she actually knew a poor person.

I can't believe the mean and callous things people are posting here about Maria and her mother. I hope no one ever does that to you people that are so mean and hateful. I wish her the best as she deals with her grief.

i too was taken to my knees when my mother died, and i loved you sharing your sign with the public that she is okay...that is very precious and personal information. thank you, i know your mother and mine rests in Gods arms as we still struggle here on earth


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